What it means to be the centre of your own life again
There’s a quiet ache that often settles into the middle years.
You’re not lost in a crisis. You haven’t collapsed or broken down.
You’re functioning. Showing up. Managing things. Keeping everything afloat.
But somewhere inside it all, you’ve started to feel a little… peripheral.
Not just to others. But to yourself.
You wake up and step straight into roles — parent, partner, colleague, caretaker, decision-maker. You’re helpful. You’re dependable. You’re steady.
But you’re also tired. Not just physically — existentially tired.
Tired of being the background architecture for everyone else’s lives while quietly wondering where yours went.
And maybe you’ve begun to feel it — that subtle pull to come back to yourself.
To remember what you need, what you love, what you want (even if you’re not quite sure yet what those things are anymore).
Not in a dramatic, take-back-your-life kind of way.
But in a quieter, deeper way. A way that says:
> I get to take up space in my own life again.
Not just as a caretaker or facilitator or fixer — but as a human. A whole person. A centre.
Because for too long, many of us have lived around the edges of our own lives.
Making things work for everyone else. Being what was needed.
Fitting ourselves in between the gaps.
And that’s not wrong. But it’s not the whole story, either.
At some point, something inside you will ask — gently but firmly — to be seen again.
Not just by others. But by you.
You’ll want to feel more than functional.
You’ll want to feel tangible.
You’ll want to feel present.
You’ll want to stop passing yourself in the mirror like a stranger.
And that longing — that call back to centre — isn’t selfish. It’s sacred.
It’s a sign that something in you is still alive and still hopeful.
That there’s still a part of you that remembers who you are — or who you could be — if you gave yourself permission to come home again.
So what does it mean to become the centre of your own life again?
It means asking yourself what you want, not just what others need.
It means showing up for yourself in small, everyday acts — not just in emergencies.
It means tending to your inner world, even if it’s messy or unfamiliar.
It means letting your feelings matter.
It means letting your voice be heard — not because it’s louder, but because it’s yours.
It means saying: I matter here. I belong to myself, too.*
Try this:
This week, ask yourself this one simple question each day:
> What’s one small thing I can do today that brings me back into focus?
That helps me feel real, visible, human — not just helpful?
Let the answers be small. Gentle. Imperfect. But yours.
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