Jun 5

Jun 5 Losing Control of Your Emotions at 48? Here's What's Really Going On (and What You Can Do About It)

You’ve always been the one who kept it together.
At home. At work. In the moments when other people fall apart, you’ve been the calm one. The capable one. The one who handles things.

But lately, something’s changed. You find yourself snapping over small things. Crying in the car. Waking up with dread or feeling foggy-headed in meetings. You’re asking yourself:
“Why can’t I control my emotions anymore?”
And maybe even, “Am I going crazy?”

You’re not. You’re in midlife — and what you’re feeling is incredibly common. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t deeply disorienting. And it definitely doesn’t mean you have to keep silently pushing through.

“I’ve Always Held It Together — Until Now”

Midlife is often described as a "second puberty" for good reason. For many women in their mid-to-late 40s, it’s the first time that emotional stability — something we’ve prided ourselves on — starts to feel elusive. You may feel like you’ve become a different person almost overnight.

The truth is, this shift isn’t just in your head — and it isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a combination of biological, emotional, and psychological factors that hit at once:

Changing hormone levels can affect mood regulation and cognitive function.
Long-held emotional patterns (like bottling things up to stay professional or strong) begin to break down under pressure.
The stress of managing work, relationships, and caregiving responsibilities compounds everything.

It’s no wonder you feel like you’re holding on by a thread. And it’s no wonder you're asking: When will I feel like myself again?

What’s Really Going On with Your Emotions in Midlife

The good news is: there are ways to make sense of all this.

Understanding why your emotions feel so intense or unpredictable right now is the first step to feeling more steady.

You don’t need to meditate for hours or do a total life reset. You just need the right kind of support — practical, grounded, and designed for your life stage. Not one-size-fits-all advice. Not something that makes you feel broken or too much.

You need:

Language to understand what’s going on internally
Tools to respond to your emotions with clarity, not panic
Support that respects your intelligence, your capacity, and your lived experience

How to Feel Like Yourself Again (Even If You’re Not There Yet)

Imagine having a framework that explains what’s happening beneath the surface — so your emotions feel less scary and more manageable.

Imagine learning how to respond to your feelings without judging yourself, spiralling into shame, or snapping at the people you love.

Imagine feeling like yourself again — but with a deeper understanding of who that is now.

That’s exactly why I created So Emotional — a midlife course and community that helps women like you stop feeling out of control and start feeling informed, equipped, and understood.