Feeling Everything and Nothing: How to Navigate Midlife Emotions
Feeling emotional (or emotionless) in midlife? Learn why midlife emotions can be overwhelming, how to navigate them, and how emotions coaching can help you find clarity and ease.
One moment, you’re fine. The next, you’re in tears because you can’t find your car keys. Or you’re suddenly furious at the way someone chews. Or you feel nothing—disconnected from the world, as if you’re watching your life from the outside.
If you’re somewhere in the middle of life, chances are you’ve Googled things like:
Why am I feeling so emotional in midlife?
Why do I feel numb and disconnected?
Why am I crying over nothing?
Why am I suddenly so angry?
Welcome to midlife emotions. They are real. They are complicated. And they are absolutely worth paying attention to.
Why Midlife Feels Like an Emotional Rollercoaster
Midlife isn’t just a chapter—it’s an entire genre of feelings. This stage of life brings with it shifts in hormones, identity, responsibilities, and relationships. It’s a time of reevaluation, a moment where what once felt certain can suddenly feel shaky. And all of this shows up in our emotions.
Here’s what you need to know about emotions in midlife:
1. Your Emotions Are Not Random (Even If They Feel That Way)
If you’re feeling more emotional—or even less emotional—than usual, there’s a reason. Midlife is full of hormonal shifts (hello, perimenopause), life transitions, and deep-seated reflections on who you are and where you’re headed. Your emotions are responding to these changes, not appearing out of nowhere.
2. It’s Not Just Hormones—It’s Identity, Too
Yes, perimenopause and hormonal changes can impact emotions, but midlife is also a time of identity shifts. You might be reassessing your career, your relationships, your purpose. This kind of deep questioning can bring up feelings of uncertainty, grief, or even restlessness.
3. You Might Feel More Everything or More Nothing
Some people describe midlife as feeling emotionally raw, like everything is too much. Others describe it as feeling emotionally disconnected, like they’re floating outside their own lives. Both experiences are valid. Neither means something is wrong with you.
4. Anger and Grief Are Common (Even If You’re Not Sure Why)
Midlife has a way of unearthing unprocessed emotions. You might feel anger at things you once tolerated. You might grieve past versions of yourself, old dreams, or relationships that no longer feel aligned. These emotions aren’t here to derail you—they’re here to show you what matters.
5. You Don’t Have to “Fix” Your Emotions—You Need to Understand Them
Midlife is not about erasing difficult emotions; it’s about making space for them. The goal isn’t to feel happy all the time but to better understand why you feel what you feel, and what those emotions might be asking of you.
So, How Do You Navigate This Emotional Terrain?
You don’t have to figure it all out alone. There are practical ways to move through this:
Journaling or Co-Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can help untangle emotions and bring clarity. Sharing reflections with a trusted friend can add an extra layer of insight.
Moving Your Body: Emotions aren’t just thoughts in your head—they live in your body, too. Gentle movement, walking, or even stretching can help process feelings.
Talking It Through: Whether it’s with a coach, therapist, or friend, speaking emotions out loud helps release their intensity.
Letting Go of the ‘Shoulds’: Midlife is a time to stop carrying expectations that no longer serve you. Feel what you feel, without judgment.
How Emotions Coaching Can Help
If you feel like midlife emotions are overwhelming, confusing, or leaving you feeling stuck, emotions coaching can offer a way through.
Here’s how it can help:
It gives you space to explore and understand your emotions. Instead of pushing emotions away or feeling lost in them, you’ll learn to get curious about what they’re telling you.
It helps you work through emotional blockers. Maybe it’s self-doubt, fear, or guilt that’s holding you back. Coaching helps you recognize and navigate what’s keeping you stuck.
It deepens your relationship with specific emotions. Whether it’s anger, anxiety, or joy, coaching helps you understand how emotions impact different aspects of your life.
It supports you in midlife and perimenopause. This is a stage of profound change, and coaching helps you navigate the emotions that come with it, rather than feeling at their mercy.
It acknowledges that wellbeing is messy and imperfect. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need a way to move through this chapter with more understanding, more ease, and more self-compassion.
Ready to Feel More Grounded in Your Emotions?
Midlife emotions don’t have to be something you battle against. They can be something you work with. If you’d like support in making sense of them, our emotions coaching sessions can help.
Find Out More About Emotions Coaching Here.
If you’re local to Bath, check our Events Page for in-person midlife emotions coaching at either the Somerset Rooms or SoulSpa.
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Connection: The Word That Defines Our Mission in 2025
Feeling disconnected? In 2025, If Lost Start Here is making connection our word of the year. Read why it matters now more than ever and discover three ways to reconnect with yourself, others, and the world around you.
We live in an age of paradox. Never before have we been so hyper-connected—constantly plugged into notifications, messages, and social media feeds. And yet, we are also lonelier, more isolated, and more disconnected than ever.
Recent studies paint a concerning picture:
One in three adults worldwide experience loneliness regularly.
The former U.S. Surgeon General Dr Vivek Murthy has declared loneliness an epidemic, citing its impact on physical and mental health, including higher risks of depression, anxiety, and even heart disease.
Social fragmentation is rising due to remote work, an increase in digital communication over in-person interactions, and the pressures of modern life that leave us exhausted and stretched thin.
At If Lost Start Here, we believe that the antidote to this growing crisis isn’t just found in another self-help book or productivity hack. It’s in connection. Connection with ourselves, with others, and with the world around us. It’s in deep conversations, small moments of presence, and shared experiences that remind us we’re not alone.
So in 2025, we’re making connection our focus. Not just as a word, but as a way of living.
Three Ways to Reconnect in 2025
At If Lost Start Here, we don’t just talk about wellbeing; we create experiences that help people feel it. Here are three ways we’re helping you reconnect this year:
1. Reconnecting with Yourself
True connection starts within. When was the last time you checked in with yourself—not just to tick off a to-do list, but to ask what you really need?
Here’s how we help:
Guided Wellbeing Courses – Our Find Your Way program helps you build an everyday wellbeing practice that supports emotional, mental, and physical balance.
One-on-One Coaching – Sometimes, you need a conversation that brings clarity. Our coaching sessions offer a space for self-reflection, emotional support, and guidance.
Creative Reflections – Whether through journaling prompts, gentle reset practices, or curiosity-driven exercises, we provide simple ways to get back in touch with yourself.
2. Reconnecting with Others
Loneliness isn’t just about physical isolation—it’s about the feeling that no one really sees you. The good news? Human connection isn’t about how many friends you have but the depth of the relationships you cultivate.
We’re creating spaces for real connection through our community The Collective Together and our Events including:
Small Group Sessions – Intimate, guided conversations where people can show up as they are, without pretense.
Community Gatherings & Events – From online wellbeing retreats to informal meetups, we’re bringing people together to connect meaningfully.
Shared Learning Experiences – Whether it’s a book club, a workshop, or a wellbeing challenge, we believe in collective learning as a way to strengthen relationships.
3. Reconnecting with the World
When we feel disconnected, it’s easy to shrink inward. But sometimes, the best way to find ourselves is to expand outward—to seek inspiration, to engage with the world in new ways.
Maybe that means stepping into a gallery where a single painting stops you in your tracks. Or walking through a city park and feeling the crisp air shift something inside you. Maybe it’s volunteering for a cause that reminds you just how much you have to give.
We believe in the power of small, intentional experiences to help you feel more anchored in the world around you. That’s why we’re:
Creating Wellbeing Prescriptions – Sometimes, we all need a little direction. Our personalised wellbeing prescriptions offer a roadmap to help you reconnect with what nourishes you—whether that’s more rest, creativity, movement, or something unexpected.
Offering Culture Therapy – We believe that books, art, music, and creative resources have the power to heal and inspire. Our culture therapy sessions help you find new ways to engage with the world through stories, creativity, and shared human experiences.
Curating a Guidebook to Connection – We’re mapping out places—cafés, museums, parks, and cultural spaces—that help you feel a little more at home in the world. Because sometimes, the right environment can make all the difference.
The world is full of places, experiences, and ideas waiting to reconnect you. Let’s explore them—together.
Connection: The Heart of Our Mission
At If Lost Start Here, we believe connection isn’t just something we do—it’s something we build, something we feel, something that makes life worth living.
As we step more into 2025, we invite you to reconnect with what matters most. To make space for deep conversations, real relationships, and a sense of belonging. To not just exist but to engage fully in life.
If you’re ready to start feeling more connected, we’d love to support you.
Explore Our Wellbeing Courses & Coaching
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Because no one should have to find their way alone.
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What I Learned This Week About Wellbeing, Connection, Purpose, Emotions, and Giving Back
Discover five key insights on wellbeing, emotional resilience, and meaningful connection from a leading conference on female empowerment. Learn how to navigate self-doubt, improve relationships, and find balance in everyday life.
Are you craving more balance, more meaningful connections, and a greater sense of emotional wellbeing in your everyday life?
Recently, I attended a conference packed with ideas about navigating life, relationships and self-care in a way that truly supports us—especially for those of us who often put others first.
Here’s what I learned, and how it might help you find more ease, clarity, and connection in your own life.
Wellbeing: Notice Instead of Avoid
How often do you push through stress, ignore exhaustion, or put off self-care because there’s too much to do?
One simple yet profound idea shared at the conference was this: Notice instead of avoid.
We’re taught to suppress discomfort and to keep going no matter what. But real wellbeing comes from paying attention—to our emotions, our energy, our stress levels—before they become overwhelming.
Try this: Before scrolling, reaching for caffeine, or brushing off your feelings, pause and ask yourself:
What am I feeling right now?
What is my body telling me?
What do I need at this moment?
Sometimes, noticing is the most powerful self-care practice of all.
Connection: The Conversation Is the Relationship
We all want deeper, more fulfilling relationships—with partners, friends, colleagues, or even ourselves.
But as Susan Scott says, “The conversation is the relationship.”
If we’re avoiding tough conversations, our relationships suffer.
If we silence ourselves to protect others’ feelings, we feel unseen.
If we struggle to express what we need, we stay disconnected.
At the conference, I heard from host Hannah Wilson about the idea of talk tokens—a concept where everyone in a meeting gets a set number of one-minute tokens to ensure equal voice time. It made me think:
What if we gave ourselves permission to take up more space in conversations? What if we listened more deeply, but also spoke with more confidence?
Try this: In your next conversation, ask yourself:
Am I truly listening?
Am I expressing what I really feel?
How would this conversation change if I gave myself full permission to show up as I am?
We co-create every relationship through our conversations. What kind of relationships do you want to create?
Purpose: Your Inner Mentor vs. Your Inner Critic
If you struggle with self-doubt, overthinking, or imposter syndrome, you’re not alone.
At the conference, Sadia Ghazanfar explored the difference between two voices inside us:
Your Inner Critic → Harsh, repetitive, and rooted in fear (“I’m not good enough. I’m failing. I should be better.”)
Your Inner Mentor → Wise, grounded, and connected to your values (“You are learning. You are enough. Keep going.”)
One insight that stood out: Your inner mentor doesn’t just think—it feels. It speaks in symbols, emotions, and quiet wisdom.
Try this: If you’re feeling lost or doubting yourself, close your eyes and picture yourself 20 years from now. What advice would that future version of you give you?
Maybe she’d tell you:
You already know more than you think.
You don’t have to have all the answers.
You are stronger than you realize.
What would shift if you started listening to her more than your inner critic?
Emotions: Owning How We Feel
One of the most powerful discussions at my table and throughout the day was about emotional validation.
Many of us, especially women, have been conditioned to believe:
Some emotions are acceptable, others are not.
We should “keep it together” for everyone else.
We must prioritize other people’s feelings over our own.
But your emotions deserve space.
Have you ever been shamed for your feelings?
Do you find yourself apologizing for emotions instead of expressing them?
Have you been taught how to regulate emotions—or just to hide them?
Hannah Wilson shared this powerful phrase from Susan Scott: “Take responsibility for your emotional wake.”
Just like a boat leaves ripples in the water, our emotions create ripples in the lives of those around us. This doesn’t mean suppressing feelings—it means owning them, processing them, and regulating them in ways that feel supportive.
Try this: The next time you feel overwhelmed, ask yourself:
Am I reacting from a place of emotional regulation?
How can I express this in a way that feels both true and safe?
What would happen if I validated my own emotions, instead of waiting for others to do it?
Owning your emotions is one of the most powerful forms of self-trust.
Giving Back: The Power of Small Actions
Women, especially, carry a huge emotional load—not just for our own wellbeing, but for our families, our workplaces, and our communities.
But one of the biggest shifts we can make is redefining impact.
Giving back doesn’t have to be big. Small actions matter.
Being an ally.
Mentoring someone who needs guidance.
Checking in on a friend.
Speaking up when something doesn’t feel right.
Renée Jacobs of The Belonging Network left us with this thought:
"What change do you want to make in yourself, in your relationships, and in the world?"
Try this: Instead of waiting for a big moment to make a difference, ask: What’s one small way I can create impact today?
Small actions create big ripples.
What This Means for You
What I took away from this conference is something I already believe deeply:
Wellbeing isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about reconnecting with yourself.
So, a few questions for you:
What’s one thing you need to notice instead of avoid?
How can you create more meaningful — even courageous — conversations this week?
What would your inner mentor say to you right now?
Where do you feel ownership over your emotions—and where don’t you?
What’s one small way you can make an impact today?
If you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, or disconnected, these small shifts can help.
Here’s to small ripples, brave conversations, and the courage to feel what we feel.
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At If Lost Start Here, we don’t believe in one-size-fits-all solutions. We believe in meeting you where you are—whether you’re navigating self-doubt, seeking deeper connections, or simply trying to find a way to feel more like yourself again.
Our ethical and certified coaching sessions are designed to help you:
Reconnect with yourself and what truly matters to you.
Navigate emotions and self-doubt with more ease.
Build healthier relationships—with yourself and others.
Create a life that feels more aligned, not just optimized.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
Explore our coaching options here and take the first step toward a life that feels more connected, confident, and lighter.
How Small Acts of Connection Can Transform Your Year (And why they matter more than ever)
Feeling disconnected? Small acts of connection can transform your year. Discover simple, meaningful ways to combat loneliness, build relationships, and create more community in your everyday life.
Maybe you’ve felt it too—that quiet hum of loneliness in the background of your day. You scroll, you work, you tick off the to-dos, and yet… something feels missing.
It’s not just you. We live in a time where we’re paradoxically more connected than ever (hello, 24/7 notifications), yet deeply isolated. Studies show that loneliness is as harmful to our health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day—and the irony is that many of us are longing for connection but unsure where to start.
So here’s a radical idea to try: what if the smallest acts of connection could change everything?
Why Small Moments of Connection Matter
I used to believe connection was about grand gestures. The milestone birthdays, the big reunions, the perfectly styled gatherings. But some of the most profound moments in my life—the ones that shifted something deep inside—were tiny.
When a neighbour made an extra pizza after my mum died so I didn’t have to think about what was for dinner. Or when a friend asked me, “How are you really?” and I exhaled, dropping the mask I had been holding all day.
These weren’t huge acts. They were micro-moments. But they reminded me: We start with each other.
How Can We Rebuild Connection?
If you're feeling disconnected, you don’t have to overhaul your life. You just need to start small. Here are three ways to weave more connection into your year.
1. We Start With Each Other
Connection begins with community. We are wired to be with and for one another, and the more we embrace that, the more we transform our experience of the world.
Try This: Make it a daily practice to send one thoughtful message. Not a “hope you’re well” text, but a real check-in. “Hey, I saw something today that reminded me of you,” or “I’ve been thinking about our last conversation—how are you feeling about that?”
This tiny act shifts you from passive relationships to active connection.
2. Creating Spaces for Connection
Many of us are waiting for connection to just happen. But what if we made space for it?
Try This: Set up a recurring way to connect that feels natural. A Friday coffee with a friend. A voice note swap every Sunday. A “phone call walk” where you catch up with someone while moving.
Most of us are starving for deeper, more meaningful conversations—but those don’t happen in passing. They happen when we create space for them.
3. Innovating How We Care
We often think of care as something we receive—but it’s equally powerful when we offer it. In a world that’s feeling more fragmented, being an ambassador for care is one of the most radical things you can do.
Try This: Pick one small way to offer care today. Send a handwritten note. Leave a book for someone with a note inside. Be the person who reaches out first.
Connection isn’t just about what we get—it’s about what we give. And when we start giving it, we realize that we are never as alone as we think.
What Changes When We Connect?
When we shift from passively moving through our days to actively looking for ways to connect, something shifts in us.
We become softer. More open. Less alone. We see the world differently because we’re no longer moving through it as if we are separate from it.
The irony of loneliness is that it tricks us into believing we’re the only ones feeling this way. But the truth? Everyone is looking for a little more connection.
And maybe, just maybe, you could be the one to offer it first.
What Now?
If you’re feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, or unsure where to start, know this:
💡 Small acts of connection can change everything.
💡 You don’t have to wait for someone else to reach out.
💡 There is space for you here.
Let’s make this year the one where we put connection back at the center of our lives.
Connection Starts Here – Join Us in The Collective Together
If you’ve been craving deeper conversations, more meaningful moments, and a place where connection truly matters—you’re not alone.
That’s exactly why we created The Collective Together—our online space for those seeking real connection, shared support, and a new way of caring for one another.
Here, we don’t just talk about wellbeing—we live it together. Through conversations, shared experiences, and small daily actions that make a difference.
Come as you are. Connect how you need. Let’s build something beautiful together.
Join The Collective Together today.
Because everything changes when we start with each other.
The Healing Power of Connection: How to Overcome Fear and Fatigue to Build a Life You Love
Discover the benefits of connection for your wellbeing, learn to overcome fear and fatigue, and join our 7-day challenge to build meaningful relationships.
Connection is more than just a feel-good concept—it’s essential for our wellbeing. Studies show that strong social bonds can boost happiness, reduce stress, and even increase longevity.
When we cultivate meaningful relationships, we feel more grounded and resilient. Connection offers us a sense of belonging, helping us navigate life’s challenges with greater ease. Even small moments, like sharing a laugh or a quiet moment, can have a profound impact on our emotional and mental health.
Connection isn’t just about quantity; it’s about quality. A single meaningful relationship can offer profound support and transformation.
The Barriers to Connection and How to Overcome Them
Despite its benefits, many of us face challenges when it comes to building or maintaining relationships. Two of the most common barriers are fear of rejection and low energy.
1. Fear of Rejection
Fear of rejection can stop us from reaching out, leaving us feeling isolated. It’s natural to worry about being turned away, but overcoming this fear can lead to deeper and more fulfilling connections.
Tips to Overcome Fear of Rejection:
Start Small: Begin with low-pressure interactions, like casual chats with acquaintances.
Reframe Rejection: Understand that rejection isn’t personal; it’s part of finding the right connections.
Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself if a connection doesn’t go as planned. Every effort is a step forward.
2. Low Energy or Exhaustion
Sometimes, life’s demands leave us too tired to connect. However, meaningful interactions can also be rejuvenating when approached thoughtfully.
Tips to Connect When Energy Is Low:
Prioritise Quality Over Quantity: Focus on deepening relationships with one or two people.
Leverage Micro-Moments: Connection can happen in small ways, like sending a thoughtful text or sharing a moment of gratitude.
Set Boundaries: Honour your energy by setting limits. True friends will respect your need for rest.
Join Our 7-Day Connection Challenge
Are you ready to deepen your connections and improve your wellbeing? Join our 7-Day Connection Challenge, designed to help you foster meaningful relationships one simple step at a time.
Here’s What You’ll Get:
Daily Prompts: Small, actionable steps to build connection.
Supportive Community: Access to The Collective Together, where you’ll share your journey with others.
Lasting Benefits: Learn how to prioritise connection in a way that aligns with your energy and needs.
Sample Challenges Include:
Day 1: Reconnect with someone you’ve lost touch with.
Day 2: Write a gratitude message to someone who’s impacted your life.
Day 3: Share an honest moment with a trusted friend.
Connection doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. This challenge is designed to fit into your life, no matter how busy or tired you feel.
Together, we can create a life rich in connection and belonging. Join us and experience the joy of being truly seen and supported.
Connection in the New Year: 5 Ways to Combat Loneliness and Build Meaningful Relationships
Feeling lonely or isolated? Discover the wellbeing benefits of connection and five actionable tips to foster meaningful relationships, even when life feels overwhelming.
Loneliness is a common yet often hidden struggle. Recent research by Gallup found that one in five people experiences daily loneliness, a statistic that highlights the importance of connection in our lives. If you’re feeling lonely, overwhelmed, or just curious about how relationships can enhance your wellbeing, this post is for you.
Strong social connections don’t just make life more enjoyable; they are proven to boost mental health, reduce anxiety, and even improve physical health. Whether you’re working from home, finding it hard to reach out, or just seeking more meaningful relationships, reconnecting with others can transform your everyday life.
Why Connection Matters for Your Wellbeing
The wellbeing benefits of connection go far beyond warm feelings. Building and maintaining social ties impacts your health in measurable ways:
1. Improved Mental Health:
Meaningful relationships reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety by providing a sense of belonging.
2. Better Physical Health:
People with robust social networks experience stronger immune systems and lower risks of chronic illnesses.
3. Greater Emotional Resilience:
Feeling connected helps you better handle stress and navigate life’s challenges.
Barriers to Connection
While we all crave connection, many of us face hurdles in making it happen:
Loneliness from Remote Work:
Without casual office interactions, remote work can leave us feeling isolated.
Lack of Energy to Socialise:
When life feels overwhelming, reaching out can feel like just another chore.
Fear of Rejection:
Vulnerability is hard, and taking the first step can feel daunting when you’re already feeling low.
The key to overcoming these barriers is recognising that connection doesn’t have to be overwhelming or all-consuming. It can start small and grow naturally.
5 Ways to Build More Connection and Combat Loneliness
1. Focus on Micro-Connections
Even small gestures can make a big difference:
- Smile at your neighbour or say hello during your morning walk.
- Send a quick “thinking of you” text to a friend.
- Compliment someone during a virtual meeting or in passing.
These tiny moments of connection build confidence and help ease feelings of isolation without requiring much energy.
2. Create Rituals for Social Connection
Routines take the guesswork out of connecting with others:
- Join a local class or activity like yoga, pottery, or book clubs.
- Set up a regular coffee chat with a friend or coworker.
- Schedule weekly family calls or virtual hangouts with distant loved ones.
By weaving connection into your routine, you’ll create touchpoints to look forward to and rely on.
3. Find Connection in Shared Activities
Shared experiences are natural icebreakers and create lasting memories:
- Watch a movie or series with a friend, even remotely, and discuss it afterward.
- Try a new recipe or DIY project together.
- Volunteer for a cause you’re passionate about and meet others who share your values.
These activities allow you to bond over mutual interests without added pressure.
4. Be Honest About How You’re Feeling
Sometimes, the most direct path to connection is honesty:
- Share your feelings of loneliness with someone you trust.
- Let a close friend know you’d like to spend more time together.
- Practice vulnerability by asking for support when you need it.
Opening up can deepen relationships and remind you that you’re not alone.
5. Reconnect with Nature and Your Community
Nature-based and community activities often provide effortless ways to connect:
- Join a local walking group or attend outdoor events.
- Visit a community garden or attend a nature conservation project.
- Take a pet to a dog park, where conversation often flows naturally.
Combining the restorative power of nature with social interactions offers double the benefits.
FAQs About Connection and Loneliness
Q: What are the health risks of loneliness?
A: Loneliness has been linked to increased risks of depression, anxiety, heart disease, and even early mortality. Building connection can help mitigate these risks.
Q: How can I connect with others if I work from home?
A: Join coworking groups, set up virtual lunch breaks with colleagues, or participate in online communities aligned with your interests.
Q: What if I’m too busy or overwhelmed to connect?
A: Start small. Even sending a quick message or sharing a smile can create meaningful moments of connection without adding stress.
Visit our guide to life for ideas for more places to help you better connect.
Transforming Loneliness Into Connection
Connection isn’t about grand gestures — it’s about showing up in ways that feel authentic and manageable for you. Start small, explore what feels right, and trust that the benefits of connection will ripple through your life.
Which of these ideas feels most accessible to you?
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What’s Next? Redefining Purpose in Midlife Without the Pressure
Wondering what’s next in midlife? Learn how to redefine purpose without pressure and explore how midlife coaching can guide your self-discovery journey.
Do you ever find yourself wondering, ‘What’s next?’
The kids are growing up, your career isn’t quite what it used to be (or maybe it’s exactly the same, and that’s the problem), and for the first time in a long time, you’re asking questions about what you want for yourself.
But here’s the thing: asking what’s next can feel overwhelming. There’s a cultural pressure to have all the answers—or to leap into reinvention. Yet, midlife isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about gently rediscovering what matters most to you.
Why Midlife Brings Questions About Purpose
Midlife often marks a crossroads, where familiar roles begin to shift:
Parenting evolves as kids become more independent, leaving space for new priorities.
Career changes loom—whether it’s a desire to pivot or a need to reignite a sense of purpose.
Health and energy levels shift, making you more conscious of how you want to spend your time.
This period of questioning is natural. It’s a sign you’re ready to reimagine your life—not to meet external expectations, but to align with your values and desires.
How to Explore ‘What’s Next’ Without the Pressure
The idea of redefining purpose can feel like a massive undertaking, but it doesn’t have to. Here are some gentle, pressure-free ways to start:
1. Reflect on What Matters Most:
Start by asking yourself simple questions:
What feels meaningful to me right now?
What do I want to spend more time doing—or less?
What am I curious about exploring?
These questions aren’t about finding the perfect answer but about noticing what sparks interest and energy.
2. Take Small, Exploratory Steps:
You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Start small:
Sign up for a workshop that interests you.
Volunteer for a cause that aligns with your values.
Explore a hobby or creative project without worrying about being “good” at it.
3. Let Go of the ‘Big Picture’:
It’s okay not to have a five-year plan. Focus on the next small step. Purpose isn’t a destination—it’s something you create and refine as you go.
Why Midlife Is the Perfect Time for Self-Rediscovery
In midlife, you have a unique opportunity to pause and realign. It’s not about reinventing yourself but about reclaiming the parts of you that may have been overshadowed by life’s demands.
This stage of life offers:
Clarity: The wisdom to know what truly matters.
Freedom: The ability to make choices that align with your values.
Curiosity: The spark to explore new possibilities without the need for perfection.
How Midlife Coaching Can Help You Define ‘What’s Next’
If you’re feeling stuck or unsure where to begin, midlife coaching can be a powerful tool. It’s not about prescribing answers but about guiding you toward your own clarity and confidence.
With coaching, you can
Reflect on your values and what brings you fulfillment.
Explore new possibilities without feeling overwhelmed.
Build a life that feels authentic to who you are now.
Take the First Step Toward ‘What’s Next’
Redefining purpose in midlife isn’t about finding a single answer. It’s about giving yourself permission to explore, grow, and create a life that feels meaningful to you.
Curious about how coaching can help?
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Reset Your Wellbeing for 2025: 8 Gentle Ways to Thrive This Year
Transform your approach to self-care with 8 simple, sustainable wellbeing principles. Start your 2025 with self-compassion, curiosity, and connection.
The start of a new year is full of promise—a fresh notebook ready to be filled with your story. Yet, the pressure of resolutions can feel overwhelming.
What if this year, instead of striving to fix yourself, you focused on nurturing your wellbeing? This New Year, step away from the hustle of perfection and explore 8 simple ways to reset your relationship with self-care and mental health.
Whether you’re feeling lost, overwhelmed, or simply curious, these principles are designed to help you reconnect with yourself in a way that feels sustainable and authentic to you.
1. Stop Trying to Fix Yourself
You are not broken. Wellbeing isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about embracing who you already are and creating space for self-discovery.
Journal Prompt:
- What would it feel like to stop fixing myself and start exploring who I am?
2. Focus on Acceptance Over Transformation
Instead of chasing grand transformations, focus on small, compassionate changes that honor where you are now.
Journal Prompt:
- What is one thing I can accept about myself today?
3. Start with Tiny Actions
Big changes aren’t necessary. Tiny, consistent steps—like journaling for 5 minutes or stepping outside to breathe—are powerful.
Journal Prompt:
- What is the smallest action I can take today to feel better?
4. Embrace Imperfection
Wellbeing doesn’t have to be polished. Messy yoga, scribbled journal pages, or a walk in mismatched socks all count.
Journal Prompt:
- How can I let go of perfection in my wellbeing practice?
5. Tune Into Your Feelings
Feelings guide us, yet we often ignore them. Start noticing your emotions and invite them into your days for better wellbeing.
Journal Prompt:
- Which emotion have I been avoiding, and how can I make space for it?
6. Skip the Trends
Wellbeing trends can be fun, but they’re not always right for everyone. Choose practices that resonate with your values and lifestyle.
Journal Prompt:
- What trends don’t work for me, and what practices feel more authentic?
7. Accept Wellbeing’s Ebb and Flow
Your relationship with wellbeing will change over time, and that’s okay. Give yourself permission to adapt.
Journal Prompt:
- What does wellbeing mean to me right now, and how might it evolve this year?
8. Expand Your Definition of Wellbeing
Wellbeing isn’t just physical—it includes emotional, relational, and even spiritual aspects. Think of it as a whole-life approach.
Journal Prompt:
- What parts of my life—emotional, spiritual, relational—need more attention?
Your 2025 Wellbeing Reset Starts Here
What part of this manifesto speaks to you the most?
Ready to approach this year differently? Join New Year, New Approach to find a better way to well for all the days of 2025.
Let’s create a year of small, meaningful shifts that truly feel good to you.
How to Start 2025 in a Better Place: A New Approach to Wellbeing
Discover 3 alternatives to New Year’s resolutions and learn how to start 2025 in a better place. Focus on emotional wellbeing, micro-resolutions, and meaningful connections.
Are you ready to rethink how you start the New Year?
If you’re tired of setting resolutions that don’t stick, feeling the pressure to change everything about yourself, or just want a gentler way to approach 2025, this guide is for you.
Why Traditional Resolutions Don’t Work
Most people abandon their resolutions by February. Here’s why:
1. Resolutions Are Overwhelming: They demand huge changes at a time when our energy is already low (hello, January blues).
2. They Focus on Perfection: If you slip up, it feels like failure.
3. They Ignore What Really Matters: Resolutions often target surface-level changes while neglecting our emotional and relational needs.
This year, let’s start differently.
How to Start 2025 in a Better Place
Instead of aiming for a total reinvention, focus on sustainable, meaningful practices that align with your values. Here are three alternative ways to begin 2025:
1. Start Small with Micro-Resolutions
Micro-resolutions are tiny, actionable steps that feel manageable and build momentum.
Example: Replace “I’ll exercise five times a week” with “I’ll take a 10-minute walk on most days.”
Why it Works: Small actions are easier to stick to and help you build habits over time.
2. Make Emotional Resolutions
Instead of focusing on what you need to do, think about how you want to feel.
Ask yourself: “What emotions do I want to invite into my life this year?”
Examples: Replace “I need to lose weight” with “I want to feel energised.” Replace “I need to be more productive” with “I want to feel balanced.”
This approach shifts the focus from fixing yourself to creating a life that feels aligned with your values.
3. Focus on Connection-Based Goals
Wellbeing isn’t just about what you do alone—it’s about the relationships that sustain you.
Try: Scheduling a monthly catch-up with friends. Joining a community group. Setting boundaries to prioritize quality time with loved ones.
Why it Works: Strong connections improve mental health, reduce stress, and foster a sense of belonging.
A Simple Practice to Reflect and Reset
Before setting any goals for the year, take a moment to pause and reflect:
Look Back Without Judgment. What did 2024 teach you about yourself? What habits or experiences brought you joy or peace?
Reframe the New Year as a Continuation. Instead of asking, “What do I need to change?” ask, “What do I want to nurture?”
Write a Letter to Your Future Self. Imagine it’s December 2025. What would you thank yourself for? What moments would you hope to have experienced?
Rethink Wellbeing in 2025
If you’re looking for a better way to well this year, join our New Year, New Approach mini-course. This self-guided experience will help you:
Understand why resolutions fail and how to avoid the guilt cycle.
Explore 12 creative ways to approach the New Year.
Discover three flexible alternatives to resolutions that can guide you through 2025.
Why This Matters
Starting 2025 with a focus on curiosity, connection, and compassion can help you:
Reduce the overwhelm of traditional resolutions.
Feel more aligned with your values.
Build a sustainable foundation for your emotional and mental well-being.
Sign up for New Year, New Approach today and start 2025 in a better place—one that supports who you are, not who you believe you have to be.
Exploring Emotions, Connection, and Wellbeing Through Podcasts
Discover the best podcasts for exploring culture, emotional connection, and wellbeing. From The Hidden Brain to Noticing, explore some inspiring stories, practical tools, and cultural insights in our latest podcast playlist in our Culture Therapy series.
What makes a culture thrive? How do emotions, traditions, and shared narratives influence our collective wellbeing? Welcome to our Culture Therapy series, where we learn about the intricacies of human connection, emotional health, and the shared experiences that shape our world through podcasts, books, and more.
This month, our curated podcast playlist highlights some incredible podcasts that offer fresh perspectives on culture, emotions, and our everyday wellbeing.
Podcasts About Emotions and Connection
Podcasts like Noticing and The Hidden Brain focus on how we connect with ourselves and others. In Noticing, Maggie Ward and Urvi Patel explore the roots of disconnection, sharing practical strategies like self-compassion, thought interruption, and micro changes that foster deeper reconnection. Meanwhile, The Hidden Brain series Emotions 2.0 examines how emotions spread and intensify in group settings, from the shared joy of concert crowds to the power of communal rituals like fire walking.
Podcasts About Cultural Narratives
Exploring the stories that shape culture, Conspiracy She Wrote reveals the women-led origins of conspiracy culture, tracing the roots of Illuminati paranoia to figures like Nesta Webster. Similarly, Don’t Drink the Milk examines the legacy of witch hunts, uncovering how these historic events continue to inform modern power dynamics and societal fears.
Science-focused podcasts like The Infinite Monkey Cage also weave cultural threads into their explorations, from how stargazing has shaped civilizations to the beauty and environmental significance of trees, featuring guests like Dame Judi Dench.
Podcasts That Inspire and Entertain
Storytelling is a powerful way to connect with culture and well-being. Comedian Amy Gledhill hilariously recounts her day on What Did You Do Yesterday, reminding us of the joy in life’s small moments. In Intersections, Lauren Layfield introduces immersive soundscapes and interviews with notable Angelenos to preserve Los Angeles’ untold stories.
For those exploring relationships and personal identity, Single Ladies in Your Area follows Amy Gledhill and Harriet Kemsley navigating the modern dating scene, while Kylie Kelce’s Not Gonna Lie balances humor, holiday traditions, and personal insights from guests like Charissa Thompson.
Why Podcasts Matter for Culture Therapy
Podcasts are a treasure trove of ideas, offering tools for emotional wellbeing, cultural understanding, and even some healthy distraction. From unpacking disconnection to exploring shared narratives and communal experiences, these episodes will help you explore more of life.
As you listen, think about how these podcasts might inspire you to move toward connection with yourself, each other and the world around you.
Whether you’re drawn to emotional health, cultural history, or lighthearted storytelling, there’s something here to spark some new thoughts and bring fresh perspectives to your sense of self and the world around you.
Ready to explore how stories, art, and culture can shape your emotional well-being? Discover Culture Therapy—a new approach to finding meaning and connection in everyday life.
Explore curated recommendations and insights designed to inspire and support you. Because sometimes, the right story or even podcast can be the best remedy.
A Very Well-ish Holiday Season: Navigating Family Dynamics with Grace and Joy
Discover how to approach family relationships this holiday season with kindness, curiosity, and connection. Let go of perfection and embrace what truly matters.
The holidays are here, and with them come the anticipation of connection, the glow of festive lights, and yes, the occasional family dynamic that feels more like a tangled string of fairy lights than a harmonious carol. In this post, we’re diving into how to navigate family relationships during the holiday season with compassion, curiosity, and a little less pressure.
If you're finding this time of year both heartwarming and nerve-wracking, you're not alone. Let's explore how to approach family relationships with a little more ease this season.
The Holiday Ideal vs. Reality
We often envision picture-perfect holidays: meaningful conversations, shared laughter, and moments of reconciliation. But reality can bring its own scenes—perhaps an awkward silence at dinner, a tense exchange, or a tradition gone awry. It’s important to remember that perfection is neither attainable nor necessary for connection.
The key? Letting go of rigid expectations. Instead of aiming for a movie-worthy holiday, focus on embracing the small, authentic moments of connection. Whether it’s a shared laugh during a holiday game or simply sitting together by the tree, these are the memories that truly matter.
1. Let Go of Perfection
The pressure to create a flawless holiday experience can weigh heavily. From planning the "perfect" menu to finding the "ideal" gift, this season often comes with an invisible checklist.
This year, consider letting go of one expectation. Maybe it’s allowing someone to arrive late without stress or accepting that not everyone wants to join the Christmas jumper tradition. By releasing some control, you open the door to unexpected joy.
2. Shift from Reacting to Responding
Family gatherings can sometimes bring out old dynamics or unresolved tensions. When emotions run high, it’s easy to react. Instead, try pausing and practicing curiosity:
What might this person be feeling right now?
What value or need might be driving their behavior?
How can I respond in a way that feels true to me?
By approaching situations with curiosity, you can create emotional distance and respond with intention rather than reactivity. Remember, this isn’t about excusing bad behavior but about navigating tricky moments with grace.
3. Cultivate Collective Care
The holidays shouldn’t rest solely on your shoulders. Consider inviting others to share the load, both emotionally and logistically:
Assign tasks: Have someone bring a dessert or a favorite side dish.
Share traditions: Invite others to take ownership of decorating or reading a holiday story.
Create opportunities for connection: Conversation starters or collaborative activities like baking can foster shared joy without adding to your to-do list.
The holidays are about being together, not delivering a perfect experience.
4. Break Old Patterns
Holiday gatherings often pull us into roles we’ve outgrown. Whether you’re the peacemaker, the overachiever, or the one who withdraws, take a moment to notice these patterns. Then, experiment with small changes:
If you tend to take on too much, practice saying no with kindness.
If you usually retreat, try staying present, even if it’s just for a few extra moments.
Breaking old habits can create space for new, healthier ways of being together.
5. Find Joy in Presence, Not Perfection
In the midst of the busyness, it’s easy to lose sight of what the holidays are truly about: enjoying the people we care about. Joy doesn’t require grand gestures—it’s often found in the little things:
Watching a holiday film together.
Sharing a quiet moment by the tree.
Laughing over a shared mishap.
This year, focus on what’s already here rather than striving for what’s missing. Ask yourself: “What’s one moment I’m looking forward to? How will I recognize joy when it appears?”
Family dynamics during the holidays are rarely perfect, but they don’t have to be. This year, let go of the need to manage every moment or fix every relationship. Instead, lean into curiosity and allow for surprise. Let kindness—for yourself and others—guide your interactions.
And if the season feels overwhelming, step back, take a breath, and reconnect with the people or moments that bring you warmth. The holidays are about being in it together—not creating a perfect façade.
What Are Your Thoughts?
What’s one expectation you’re letting go of this holiday season? Or a tradition you’re excited to embrace? Join the conversation on Substack or Instagram. If this post resonated with you, consider sharing it with someone who might need a little extra support navigating their holiday season.
Wishing you a season filled with small joys, meaningful connections, and a little less stress.
Embracing the Winter Season: Finding Magic in these Darker Months
Discover how to embrace winter's challenges and uncover its magic. Learn the art of slowing down, connecting with nature, and nurturing yourself through cozy practices and meaningful connections. Wintering well starts here.
Welcome to an exploration of a season that, for many, can feel daunting and seemingly endless: winter.
Much like you, I too have wrestled with the challenges that this cold and often gloomy time of year can present. Today, I want to challenge myself, and maybe you too, to find ways not just to endure but embrace winter, discovering a bit of magic along the way.
Winter isn't my favorite. It can feel relentless and isolating, casting a shadow over everything I do. I recognize its impact on my mental well-being, so I’m currently trying to make peace with it.
My goal this winter is to uncover some of its hidden gems—those small moments of beauty and coziness that might make the season more bearable, perhaps even enjoyable.
The Art of Wintering
My perspective began to shift after reading Katherine May's book, Wintering, which explores winter not merely as a season, but as a state of being. This time invites us to slow down, even when it feels uncomfortable. May's wisdom encourages us to accept winter's potential benefits—a more restful period in our lives.
I've come to see the tension in winter as both a call for productivity and an invitation to rest. The shorter days urge us to pause.
Could slowing down actually be productive? It's a question that might help us better navigate the different pace of this season.
Lessons from Nature
Could nature guide us through winter's challenges? Trees drop their leaves, conserving energy. Hedgehogs hibernate. Seeds rest beneath the earth. Nature embraces its seasons. Can we do the same?
The concept of the "fertile void"—a space where nothing seems to happen on the surface, yet beneath there's preparation and potential—resonates with me, particularly in the winter.
Are we, by slowing down, able to prepare for something needed right now, that might even return us back to ourselves in future months?
Connection: A Winter Essential
In winter, self-care often focuses on going inward. While important, there's also a need for connection. We must remember to lean on each other. Connection combats isolation and its creeping melancholy.
Consider small acts of connection this winter. Reach out—invite a friend for a walk, send a heartfelt message.
Building these threads of connection can lift us, and help us through these cold months.
Acceptance and Curiosity
Winter is an opportunity to disconnect from constant productivity and embrace the season's messy middle—the space between endings and beginnings.
We don't need to have it all figured out. Exploration can keep curiosity alive.
Whether it’s trying new recipes, chasing the light, or asking what sparks your curiosity now, these are paths winter opens for us.
Anchoring Ourselves
I've found anchoring practices helpful to remain present in ways that feel good this winter. A daily 3-2-1 practice—three things I’m grateful for, two things I’m curious about, and one act of kindness for myself or others—brings new awareness to my days.
Consider creating a well-being winter toolkit: perhaps the crackle of a fire, a glow of candles, a cozy weighted blanket, or a beloved seasonal movie.
What small comforts help you anchor in winter?
Seeking Ways to Wintering Well
Wintering well is not about fighting the season but listening—finding rest and connection in its quiet months.
Ask yourself: What would wintering well look like for me? Resting more, reaching out more, or simply acknowledging the good already present in your life?
What strategies have you developed to handle winter?
Until next time, take care, stay warm, and remember that if winter does not become your favorite season, spring is just around the corner.
Coming soon: how to navigate messy family relationships during the holidays—right when we need it the most.
The Silent Weight of Midlife: Emotional Labour and How to Lighten the Load
Feeling overwhelmed by emotional labour in midlife? Discover what it is, why it feels so heavy, and how midlife coaching can help you lighten the load.
Ever feel like you’re carrying the world on your shoulders?
From managing family schedules to smoothing over conflicts and anticipating everyone’s needs, the mental and emotional weight of midlife can be overwhelming. It’s invisible to others but all too real for you.
If you’ve been feeling exhausted, unappreciated, or disconnected from yourself, you’re not alone. This unseen burden—known as emotional labor—is a common experience for women in midlife. Let’s explore what it is, why it feels so heavy, and how you can begin to lighten the load.
What Is Emotional Labour?
Emotional labor refers to the invisible work of managing not only tasks but also feelings—both your own and those of others.
It’s keeping the emotional peace at home, remembering birthdays, and knowing when someone’s mood is off before they say a word. It’s the countless micro-decisions, from ensuring everyone’s needs are met to anticipating problems before they arise.
In midlife, emotional labor often intensifies as women juggle:
Caregiving for aging parents while supporting children through critical life stages.
Professional responsibilities in careers that demand focus and leadership.
Household management, often without shared accountability.
Society has conditioned women to take on this role, leading to burnout and a persistent feeling of being stretched too thin.
Why Does Emotional Labour Feel Heavier in Midlife?
Midlife is a time of transition. While it can be a period of growth and self-discovery, it’s also marked by unique challenges:
1. The Sandwich Generation: Balancing care for both children and aging parents creates a constant push-and-pull on time and energy.
2. Shifting Identities: As children grow more independent and career paths evolve, many women find themselves questioning, “Who am I beyond my roles?”
3. Invisible Work: Emotional labor remains unacknowledged, even by those closest to you, leaving you feeling unseen and unsupported.
How to Lighten the Load
If you’re feeling the weight of emotional labor, know that you can take steps to ease the burden and create space for yourself. Here’s how to start:
1. Recognise It
The first step to change is awareness. Take stock of all the invisible work you do, from planning meals to remembering your child’s upcoming project deadline. Write it down, and consider sharing it with your partner or family.
2. Set Boundaries
You can’t do it all—and you shouldn’t have to. Learn to say no to requests that drain you and yes to moments that restore you. It’s okay to prioritize your needs.
3. Delegate Without Guilt
Share responsibilities with those around you. Whether it’s assigning chores at home or asking for help with caregiving tasks, letting go doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re human.
4. Seek Support
You don’t have to navigate this alone. Whether it’s confiding in a trusted friend or working with a midlife coach, finding someone to share your thoughts and help you regain clarity can be transformative.
Rediscovering Yourself in Midlife
Imagine a life where you feel lighter and more present—not because all the challenges have disappeared, but because you’ve created space for yourself.
Midlife coaching can be the support you need to shift the invisible weight of emotional labor and rediscover what truly matters to you. Midlife coaching offers a safe, supportive space to:
Clarify your values and goals.
Reclaim time and energy for yourself.
Build practical strategies to lighten your mental and emotional load.
Ready to take the first step?
Click here to learn more about midlife coaching and book a free discovery call to explore how we can help you create space for what truly matters.
If you’re local to Bath, check our Events Page for in-person midlife emotions coaching at either the Somerset Rooms or SoulSpa.
Midlife is a time of change—let’s make it a time of possibility. Sign up for our mailing list to receive insights, tools, and guidance to help you navigate midlife with more clarity, confidence, and ease. Because this chapter is yours to shape. Join us here
The 12 Gifts of Christmas to Nurture Wellbeing and Cultivate Joy
Discover our 12 Gifts of Christmas, featuring wellbeing planners, courses, and coaching sessions designed for meaningful giving. Perfect for self-care, last-minute shoppers, and thoughtful presents this holiday season.
This holiday season gift something that goes beyond the wrapping paper—gifts that spark joy, inspire self-care, and make a lasting impact.
Our 12 Gifts of Christmas are perfect for thoughtful shoppers looking to give a little more meaning this year. From wellbeing courses to bespoke 1:1 coaching sessions, and practical tools for everyday life, these gifts are designed to meet your loved ones wherever they are, helping them feel happier and healthier.
Over the next weeks, we’ll be unwrapping something special every day with our handpicked selection of wellbeing gifts.
Whether you’re shopping for the planner in your life, a wellness enthusiast, or someone who’s craving a gentle reset, check back to find the perfect gift for everyone on your list — from your teenager to your mother-in-law.
Day 1: The More Good Days Bundle
For stationery lovers, planners, and anyone craving a fresh start, the More Good Days Bundle is the ultimate gift of calm and clarity. This beautifully designed bundle helps people reflect on their goals, nurture their emotional wellbeing, and creating meaningful, manageable shifts in their everyday life.
Perfect for starting the New Year on the right note, the More Good Days Bundle is a thoughtful way to support someone’s journey to better days—whether they’re looking for structure, creativity, or simply a space to dream.
Day 2: Our New Year Course Bundle
Give the gift of well-being this Christmas with our New Year Course Bundle: two thoughtfully designed courses, Start Where You Are and Find Your Way, perfect for anyone craving calm, clarity, and meaningful self-care.
This bundle offers a refreshing alternative to fleeting wellness trends, guiding your loved one—or yourself—towards creating a personalised, sustainable well-being practice.
These courses are perfect for anyone looking to start 2025 in a better place.
Day 3: The Feelings Spa
What if you could step into a spa for your emotions? A space where your feelings aren’t judged but gently untangled, soothed, and understood. That’s exactly what our Feelings Spa offers—a one-on-one emotions coaching session designed to help you process, heal, and reconnect with yourself.
This season, gift yourself (or someone you care about) the ultimate act of self-care: time to explore the emotions that often get overlooked in the hustle of daily life. Whether it’s stress, overwhelm, or simply the desire to feel more like yourself again, our Feelings Spa is here to help you navigate it all with kindness, curiosity and a sense of calm.
Day 4: Self-Care Kit
When life feels overwhelming, self-care can be as simple as having the right tools to help you pause and reset. Our Self-Care Kit is designed to meet you—or someone you care about—right where you are.
Packed with thoughtfully curated items, it’s perfect for wellness enthusiasts who love a gentle nudge toward self-discovery or anyone who can use comfort and clarity during busy times.
Day 5: A Tailored Wellbeing Prescription
At If Lost Start Here, we believe that wellbeing isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. Our Wellbeing Prescriptions are designed to meet you exactly where you are. Together we’ll co-create a carefully crafted, bespoke plan that reflects your unique needs, values, and desires.
Whether you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply curious about how to bring more joy and balance into your life, this is a way to pause, reflect, and take meaningful steps toward what feels good to you. Each prescription is a thoughtful blend of simple practices, creative ideas, and actionable insights, designed to fit seamlessly into your everyday life.
Day 6: Gift Cards
Perfect for friends or loved ones navigating life's twists and turns, this gift card provides access to impactful well-being courses, coaching sessions, and planners designed to nurture their emotional and mental health. Whether they're seeking a mini reset or ready to embark on a self-guided exploration of what truly matters, this gift is a thoughtful way to show you care about their wellbeing.
Why not offer the gift of choice? With our Gift Card, the recipient can pick what resonates most with them—like our Start Where You Are course or a coaching session tailored to their needs. It's a meaningful way to inspire hope, joy, and calm in their everyday life while letting them take charge of their wellbeing journey.
Day 7: Values Discovery Session
If someone you know is feeling a little lost heading into the New Year, unsure of where to focus their energy or how to make decisions that truly serve them, our Values Discovery Session could be the anchor they need.
In this 90-minute session, our ICF Certified Coach will work with your gift recipient to uncover the values that resonate most deeply with them, helping them reconnect with themselves.
Values are the quiet guides that shape our choices, direct our actions, and reveal what really matters to us—even in the noisiest moments of life
When life feels overwhelming, knowing our core values gives us clarity, direction, and a sense of purpose, providing the foundation for a more meaningful and intentional 2025.
Day 8: The Wellery
This holiday season, give yourself—or someone you care about—the gift of real, messy, and beautifully imperfect wellbeing with The Wellery.
This is your space to explore what feeling good means to you. It offers a blend of self-care practices, creative inspiration, and heartfelt connection, designed to help you navigate life with kindness, curiosity, and self-trust. Think of it as part book club, community hub, and creative studio, all crafted to support your emotional and mental wellbeing.
Day 9: Midlife Coaching
In midlife, it can often feel like demands overshadow desires. Our midlife coaching sessions are tailored to help women navigate the complexities of this transitional life stage. These sessions provide a nurturing space to explore what truly matters. Whether it’s addressing changes in identity, relationships, or aspirations, we focus on what feels meaningful for you.
This holiday season, give yourself—or someone you love—a chance to pause, reflect, and even embrace all that midlife can offer. For anyone wondering “What now” and “What next?”
Day 10: New Year, New Approach
This Christmas, gift someone (or yourself) the freedom to ditch rigid resolutions. Instead, think about starting 2025 with practices that feel kind, sustainable, and more about what you need, rather than what trends are telling you you do. Whether you’re arriving at the New Year with big ambitions or just the hope to make 2025 just that little bit better, our New Year, New Approach mini-course can help shape the beginning of something new.
You’ll get to explore 12 alternative ways to help you start 2025 in a better place, get curious about your life, and create a foundation you can revisit again and again beyond January. This year, let your (or someone else’s) New Year be less about “new you” and more about a new approach to well-being that can support you through all the days of 2025.
Day 11: The Collective Together
Our online community is designed for anyone ready to take small, meaningful steps toward a life that aligns with who they are and what they truly care about. Whether it’s taking on a playful challenge like “Be Nice to Yourself for 24 Hours” or rediscovering your connection to nature by simply pausing to “Look at a Tree So That Your Brain Remembers You’re Human,” we’re here to guide and celebrate you.
Well-being isn’t always tidy, and we embrace that. Together, we explore the messy, real-life journey of living with more joy, purpose, and presence.
Through monthly challenges, facilitated meet-ups, and bonus workshop recordings, The Collective Together creates space for connection, learning, and growth. Join us — or make this a gift they’ll remember — as we discover the power of small actions, taken together.
Day 12: Our gift to you
We made a little something to make the Holiday Season that much easier for you too. Sign up for our newsletter today and get a thank you to your inbox on Christmas Eve.
Each gift in our 12 Gifts of Christmas collection has been chosen with care to help you or your loved ones find their way to a better place.
As we move through the holidays, why not gift something that brings more than just joy in the moment—something that inspires clarity, self-compassion, and wellbeing long after the decorations come down?
Check back as we reveal more of these heartfelt gifts designed to uplift and inspire over the next days.
This year, let’s make the holidays about meaningful giving, because there’s nothing more precious than showing someone you care about their happiness and wellbeing.
Wishing you the warmest of wishes this Holiday Season.
Navigating Holiday Emotions: A Very Well-ish Holiday Season
During the festive season we can feel all the feelings. Learn what to do when the 12 Emotions of Christmas inevitably show up.
As the holiday season approaches, the pressure to make everything perfect for everyone else can often take a toll on our own well-being. But this year, let’s do it differently. Instead of focusing solely on creating magic for others, let’s also nurture ourselves.
In the first episode of our festive mini-series, A Very Well-ish Holiday Season, we dive into the complex emotions that surface during this time of year and explore ways to embrace and navigate them with care.
The Emotional Landscape of the Holidays
While the holidays are often joyful, they can also bring stress, overwhelm, and even burnout. The mix of emotions—joy, gratitude, anxiety, and loneliness—can feel like a rollercoaster. On top of that, grief may make an appearance, reminding us of those we’ve lost.
The key to navigating this emotional landscape? Acceptance. Embrace the full range of emotions, both positive and challenging, and allow space for authenticity and real connection. It’s not about eliminating negative feelings but creating a mindful space to honour whatever it is you feel alongside the joyful moments.
This Week’s Takeaway
This holiday season, give yourself permission to feel it all. Share your emotions with others—they might appreciate the validation and connection. And remember, nurturing your emotional well-being benefits everyone around you.
For more practical tips on embracing your emotions during the festive season, sign up for our newsletter or check out our recent journal posts.
Coming Up Next Week
In the next episode of A Very Well-ish Holiday Season, we’ll explore how to fold self-care into the holidays without adding to your to-do list. Subscribe on Substack to never miss an episode (you have enough to remember right now).
How to Manage Holiday Burnout and Embrace Seasonal Self-Care
Feeling stressed or overwhelmed this holiday season? Discover practical self-care habits, ways to connect positively, and tips to manage emotions and end-of-year burnout.
Last December, I found myself sitting in my car outside a crowded shopping centre, utterly drained. I had just spent hours rushing from one errand to the next, trying to make everything perfect for the holidays.
Instead of feeling festive, I felt a deep sense of resentment—toward the season, the expectations, and even myself for not being able to keep up.
It wasn’t until I stopped and asked, “What do I actually need right now?” that I realised I wasn’t failing; I was simply running on empty. That moment shifted how I approached the rest of the holidays.
The holidays bring a mix of joy and chaos— it’s a season to celebrate, yet one that can also push us to our limits. Between endless to-do lists, more complicated family dynamics, and the pressure to make everything perfect, it’s easy to feel stretched thin. Add in the emotional weight of year-end reflections, and burnout can quickly take hold.
But what if we could shift the focus this season, embracing a gentler, maybe even messier, approach that prioritizes your well-being? Here are some ideas for avoiding, or navigating, holiday burnout.
First, How to Identify Holiday Burnout
Holiday burnout can creep up on us, often disguised as everyday stress. It might feel like constant exhaustion, even after a full night’s sleep, or irritability over small things that wouldn’t normally bother you.
Physically, it can show up as tension headaches, a racing mind, or a sense of being on edge. Emotionally, you may notice feelings of detachment, overwhelm, or resentment toward tasks and traditions you once enjoyed.
Pay attention to the signals: are you losing your patience more easily, withdrawing from loved ones, or struggling to keep up with your usual energy levels? Recognizing these signs early is the first step in addressing burnout and finding ways to restore your capacity during the season.
Just know that burnout during the holidays doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong; it means you’re human. And if holiday burnout does show up use it as a reminder to pause and reconnect with what truly matters.
Second, What to Do If You’re Feeling Burned Out This Holiday Season
Here’s how to manage holiday burnout while embracing seasonal self-care and meaningful connection:
1. Pause and Identify Your Emotions
When emotions feel overwhelming, we often want to avoid them at all costs, but paying attention to them could be the key to feeling better. Take a moment just to name your emotions. Saying (to yourself perhaps) “I feel anxious” or “I feel overwhelmed” helps reduce the intensity of an emotion and gives you clarity on what you need.
2.Incorporate Seasonal Self-Care
Self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate. Embrace small habits like enjoying a quiet cup of tea, stepping outside for fresh air, or saying no to an unnecessary task.
We often think this is the part that’s “indulgent” or that can be pushed back to later, but it’s often these small practices that can create the breathing room we most need amidst the chaos.
3. Build Positive Connections
Instead of focusing on what’s expected, look for authentic ways to connect. Share a meal, have a heartfelt conversation, or take a moment to thank someone you appreciate. Small, genuine interactions can uplift your mood and theirs.
This might mean that you don’t make three stuffings, or that you don’t pack in multiple events in one day, or that you buy one less perfect gift. Sometimes paring back or even shifting our expectations, can give us what we most need: time with the people we love and value the most.
Shifting the focus from perfection to presence can help transform the season into something meaningful, even amidst the busyness.
4. Set Boundaries for Your Emotional Capacity
When you feel your mental and emotional reserves depleting, give yourself permission to step back. Decline obligations that don’t serve you and focus on what truly restores your energy.
You don’t need to be “on” the whole Holiday Season: you can still honor your energy and it’s still ok to rest. It’s winter after all, a season that demands something quieter of us and invites us to retreat into cozy.
5. Reframe Your Perspective
Challenge the holiday “shoulds” and ask yourself, “What do I truly need right now?” Maybe it’s a moment of solitude, a conversation with a loved one, or just letting go of perfection.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that holidays are only successful if they’re flawless. But the truth is, the most meaningful moments often come when we let go of the pressure to do everything and focus instead on what we truly value.
When you start to feel burned out, try to connect back in with yourself and discover what you really need from this season so it can stay joyful and magical to you.
This Holiday Season give yourself permission to rewrite the rules. Focus on what feels good to you, whether it’s embracing rest, creating space for joy, or finding new ways to connect with others. Start small, and remember: it’s okay to prioritise yourself in the midst of everything else.
What emotions are showing up for you this holiday season? How are you balancing connection and self-care?
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How to Check In With Yourself (And Why It Matters): A Holiday Reflection Guide
Stay grounded this holiday season with easy self-reflection prompts. Make this season meaningful with a few mindful minutes each day.
The holidays can be a whirlwind of events, gatherings, and to-do lists. With so much happening, it’s easy to get caught up in the rush and lose sight of our own needs. But amidst the holiday hustle, checking in with yourself can be one of the most powerful ways to stay grounded. A few minutes of self-reflection each day can make a huge difference in managing stress, staying connected to what matters, and enjoying the season fully.
In this guide, we’ll explore why checking in with yourself is so valuable and provide simple, supportive prompts to help you find peace and balance.
Why Self-Check-Ins Matter (Especially During the Holidays)
The practice of checking in with yourself is about taking a moment to recognise what you’re feeling and what you need. During the holidays, emotions can run high, from joy and excitement to stress and overwhelm. When we pause to acknowledge these feelings, we’re better equipped to handle whatever comes our way.
Studies show that regular self-reflection can reduce stress and improve emotional resilience. Taking time to listen to yourself helps you identify your needs, make healthier choices, and ultimately enjoy a more balanced holiday season.
Daily Prompts to Guide Your Self-Check-Ins
To make self-reflection easy, here are three simple prompts you can use throughout the season. Each prompt is designed to help you tune into your emotions, connect with what brings you joy, and find gratitude.
1. Start with “What Am I Feeling Right Now?”
This question is simple but powerful. By asking yourself what you’re feeling, you give yourself a moment to pause and acknowledge any emotions that may be under the surface. Naming your feelings – whether they’re positive, neutral, or challenging – can help you process them more effectively.
Why It Helps: Research shows that naming our emotions helps reduce their intensity and brings a sense of clarity. When we recognise our feelings without judgement, we become more present and less reactive.
Try This Prompt: “What am I feeling right now?” – Take a minute to write down any feelings that come up, without filtering or judging. If you’re feeling both joy and stress, for example, let both emotions exist together. This honesty allows for a more grounded experience.
2. Reflect on What Brings You Joy and Ease
During the holidays, it’s easy to get swept up in activities that might not truly bring us happiness. Reflecting on what genuinely brings you joy and ease can help you prioritise those moments and find ways to make them part of your routine.
Why It Helps: Research shows that reflecting on positive experiences helps create a more balanced mindset. By focusing on what’s working, you’re more likely to build a holiday season around things that feel nourishing.
Try This Prompt: “What small moments have I enjoyed most this week?”* – Reflect on simple things that made you feel good, whether it’s a quiet evening with a book, a cup of tea, or time with loved ones. Let these moments guide how you spend your time in the coming days.
3. End the Season with Gratitude
Gratitude can be a powerful tool for closing out the holiday season on a positive note. By focusing on what you’re thankful for, you can create a sense of closure that leaves you feeling content and fulfilled.
Why It Helps: Gratitude has been shown to improve mental health, increase happiness, and strengthen relationships. When we end the season with gratitude, we’re more likely to carry those positive feelings into the new year.
Try This Prompt: “What am I most grateful for this holiday season?” – Think about what’s brought you joy, connection, or peace over the past few weeks. This could be a special moment, a relationship, or even something as simple as a quiet morning. Reflecting on these moments helps you appreciate the season fully.
Create Your Own Check-In Rituals
In addition to using these prompts, try creating a few check-in rituals to help make self-reflection a natural part of your day. Here are some ideas for easy rituals that fit seamlessly into a busy holiday schedule.
1. Morning Journal Moment
Start your day with a short journal entry using one of the prompts above. Even a few lines can help set a positive tone for the day and keep you connected to yourself.
2. Midday Pause
Take a short break midday to check in with how you’re feeling and what you need. This could be a quick breathing exercise, a walk outside, or simply a moment of stillness. By giving yourself space to pause, you can recalibrate and approach the rest of the day with a clearer mind.
3. Evening Gratitude Reflection
Before bed, jot down one or two things you’re grateful for from the day. Reflecting on these moments helps you wind down, promotes better sleep, and encourages a sense of appreciation.
Holiday Self-Check-In: Finding Ease in Simplicity
Checking in with yourself doesn’t have to be complicated. In fact, the beauty of these prompts is their simplicity. The goal is to reconnect with what truly matters to you – your feelings, your joys, and your moments of gratitude. By taking just a few minutes each day, you’re nurturing a sense of calm, presence, and balance throughout the season.
A More Mindful Holiday
This holiday season, make time for what truly matters – starting with yourself. By using these prompts and creating check-in rituals, you can stay connected to your well-being and approach each day with a sense of peace. Self-reflection is one of the best gifts you can give yourself, allowing you to enjoy the season in a way that feels both meaningful and manageable.
If you’re ready for more tips on finding ease and joy this holiday season, sign up for our free Well-ish Guide to Feeling Better this Holiday Season! With simple, grounding ideas for a more balanced holiday, it’s the perfect companion for a season that feels just right.
How to Find Your Anchor This Holiday Season: A Guide to Gentle Well-Being Practices
Feeling overwhelmed as the holidays approach? Discover simple ways to anchor yourself with gentle well-being practices that can support you through this busy season.
As the year speeds toward the holiday season, life can start to feel like a relentless list of to-dos. Between work deadlines, family gatherings, and all the plans piling up, it’s easy to lose sight of yourself. If you’re craving a way to stay grounded and calm, even as the busyness builds, now is the time to explore practices that anchor you to what really matters.
Anchoring yourself is about having touchpoints – small, meaningful actions that bring you back to a sense of calm and stability. And Find Your Way, our well-being course, is designed with this exact need in mind: a gentle, supportive guide to help you build well-being practices that fit into real life. Today, we’re sharing a few foundational ideas to help you create your own anchors before the holiday season ramps up.
Why You Need an Anchor Right Now
It’s no surprise that the weeks before the holidays can be one of the most stressful times of the year. Studies show that around 64% of people feel increased stress as the holiday season approaches. The pressure to get everything just right, to do it all, and to meet everyone’s needs can make us feel like we’re in a constant whirlwind.
But what if, instead of getting swept up, you could feel calm, steady, and present? Anchoring practices give you just that. Anchors aren’t about adding more to your plate – they’re about finding small moments of stillness and grounding that help you feel centred, even on the busiest days.
Discovering the Power of Anchors
There was a time when we, too, felt lost in the shuffle, especially as the year-end drew close. We would tackle all the plans, the obligations, and the endless details but somehow feel like we were missing out on the season itself. It was only when we discovered the importance of having anchors that we were able to slow down, connect to what truly mattered, and enjoy the season in a way that felt authentic and fulfilling.
These anchors were small – a morning coffee (or egg nog latte) enjoyed without rushing, a quick (multilayered) walk outside, a few minutes to write down a thought or feeling (mostly ‘how’?) – but they helped us remember ourselves in the midst of everything else. Anchors are now an integral part of Find Your Way, created from the realisation that well-being is best built on everyday moments of connection and calm.
3 Simple Anchoring Practices to Try Before the Holidays
Here are a few simple practices that you can begin using now to help keep you grounded as the season gets busier:
1. Morning Mindfulness Moment
Take five minutes each morning to be still and present. Whether you’re sipping coffee, breathing deeply, or sitting in silence, let these minutes ground you. Studies show that even a brief daily practice can significantly reduce stress and improve focus throughout the day.
2. Daily “Gratitude Pause”
Amid all the planning, it can be easy to forget what brings us joy. Take a moment to reflect on something you’re grateful for each day, no matter how small. This practice can reset your mindset, helping you feel more positive and less overwhelmed.
3. Short Walk or Outdoor Break
If you’re feeling stressed or caught up in “holiday to-do mode,” step outside for a brief walk. Research shows that spending just 15 minutes in nature can lower stress levels and improve mood. Let the fresh air remind you that there’s more to this season than tasks and to-dos.
How Find Your Way Can Help You Feel Grounded This Season
If these practices resonate, Find Your Way is designed to be a supportive guide in your life, especially as the world gets busier. Our course explores ten pathways to well-being, including reconnecting with nature, nurturing our relationships and finding meaning in everyday moments. Each theme offers practical ways to bring well-being into your daily life without the pressure to be perfect.
Through Find Your Way, you’ll discover small, manageable ways to create an anchor point that keeps you feeling steady, no matter what the day brings. It’s all about finding a path that feels good, not one that demands more of you.
Ready to Anchor Yourself This Holiday Season and Beyond?
This November, as life picks up speed, give yourself the gift of gentle well-being practices that truly support you. Our Find Your Way course was created with real-life needs in mind – to help you feel more centred, more resilient, and more at ease in your own life.
Click here to learn more about Find Your Way and start building your well-being anchor today.
As we enter the holiday season, remember that well-being doesn’t have to be grand or time-consuming. Often, it’s the small, intentional moments that make the biggest difference. So take a breath, find your anchor, and let’s navigate this season together.
5 Simple Shifts for a Calmer, Happier Holiday Season
Create a holiday season that feels calm and joyful with these five easy shifts. From setting daily intentions to savouring small moments, discover practical ways to stay grounded and enjoy each day.
The holiday season can be a time of joy, connection, and warmth. But let’s face it – it can also be a time of stress and overwhelm, as we try to keep up with the endless to-do lists and holiday “shoulds.” Sometimes, the pressure to make everything “just right” leaves us feeling more frazzled than festive. This year, instead of aiming for perfection, why not try a few tiny shifts that can make a big difference?
Small, intentional changes can help you create a season that feels lighter, more balanced, and genuinely enjoyable. From setting daily intentions to savouring little moments, these simple shifts can help you feel grounded and at ease, even on the busiest days. Here’s how to get started.
1. Start Your Day with a “Holiday Intention”
How we start each day can set the tone for how we experience the whole season. Rather than diving straight into the holiday hustle, try beginning each morning with a quiet moment to set an intention for the day. This doesn’t need to be anything big or elaborate – just a simple feeling you want to focus on, like “peace,” “connection,” or “joy.”
How It Works
Intentions are powerful because they shift our focus from what we have to do to how we want to feel. Research on mindfulness shows that setting daily intentions can improve mood and reduce stress. By choosing a specific feeling to guide your day, you’re creating a mental framework that prioritises your well-being, not just productivity.
Try This Action Prompt
Each morning, pause and ask yourself: “What feeling do I want to cultivate today?” Write it down or simply say it out loud to yourself. For example: “Today, I want to feel calm.” Let this intention gently guide your choices and responses throughout the day..
Small Reminder
Even if things don’t go as planned, try returning to your intention. Whether it’s taking a breath or pausing for a moment of gratitude, small steps can bring you back to the feeling you want to create.
2. Create a “Pause Ritual” for When Things Feel Busy
Holidays tend to come with a natural uptick in busyness. From last-minute errands to unexpected guests, it’s easy to feel swept up in the momentum. That’s why having a go-to “pause ritual” can be such a helpful tool. When you have a simple, calming activity that you can use anytime, it becomes easier to slow down, reset, and approach each moment with more mindfulness.
How It Works
Pause rituals act like mini “time-outs” that let us step back from the chaos. Studies suggest that taking short breaks throughout the day improves mental clarity and overall well-being. Even a quick minute can help you re-centre, helping you approach each task with renewed calm and focus.
Try This Action Prompt
Choose a small ritual that feels calming to you, like a breathing exercise, stretching, or enjoying a warm drink without distractions. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, take one minute to pause and focus on this ritual.
Example Pause Rituals
- Breathe Deeply: Take three deep breaths, inhaling through your nose and exhaling slowly through your mouth.
- Savour the Warmth: Sip a cup of tea or coffee slowly, noticing the warmth, taste, and aroma.
- Look Around: Take a quick look outside or around the room, noticing something that brings you a sense of peace.
By building a pause ritual into your day, you’ll create small moments of calm that can help you manage even the busiest days.
3. Keep a Small Wins List
During the holiday rush, it’s easy to lose sight of the small things we accomplish each day. But recognising these “small wins” can create a surprising sense of achievement and joy. Keeping a daily list of even the tiniest wins can remind you of your progress and help you appreciate your efforts, no matter how big or small.
How It Works
Celebrating small achievements has been shown to boost mood and increase motivation. A small win could be something as simple as finishing a task, spending a quiet moment with a loved one, or enjoying a peaceful walk. Noticing and acknowledging these wins helps reinforce that you’re moving forward, even in small ways.
Try This Action Prompt
At the end of each day, write down one small “win” you experienced. It could be anything from a completed task to a pleasant conversation. Focus on moments that made you feel good.
Examples of Small Wins
- Enjoyed a quiet moment with a hot drink
- Finished a task you were putting off
- Took a five-minute walk outside
- Received a kind message or sent one
Reflecting on these moments at the end of the day can leave you with a sense of satisfaction and gratitude, making the holiday season feel fuller and more meaningful.
4. Embrace “Micro Moments” of Gratitude
Gratitude doesn’t need to be a grand gesture or a once-a-year Thanksgiving tradition. Instead, consider practicing gratitude in “micro moments” throughout the season. Taking a few seconds to pause and appreciate something small can help you feel grounded and connected to the present.
How It Works
Studies show that gratitude improves mental health, fostering resilience and reducing stress. Practising gratitude in small, frequent doses lets you capture the benefits without needing to set aside large chunks of time.
Try This Action Prompt
Look for one small thing each day that you’re grateful for, whether it’s a cozy blanket, a loved one’s smile, or the smell of holiday treats. Take a few seconds to pause and savour it.
Examples of Micro Moments of Gratitude
- Appreciating a beautiful sunset or holiday lights
- Enjoying the first sip of your morning coffee
- Noticing the warmth of a cozy blanket
- Pausing to listen to a favourite holiday song
These small gratitude pauses add up, helping you experience the season with a greater sense of presence and joy.
5. Let Go of One “Should” This Season
Sometimes, the stress of the holidays comes from feeling like we “should” do everything: we should host, we should bake, we should buy the perfect gifts. But holding onto these “shoulds” can make the season feel heavy. This year, try letting go of just one “should” that doesn’t feel right for you. It could be a tradition that no longer serves you, or an expectation that adds stress rather than joy.
How It Works
When we let go of unnecessary obligations, we make room for what genuinely matters. Letting go of a “should” can feel freeing, helping you create a holiday season that aligns with your true values.
Try This Action Prompt
Identify one “should” that doesn’t serve you and commit to letting it go. Think of it as a small holiday gift to yourself!
Examples of “Shoulds” to Let Go
- Hosting every gathering yourself
- Buying expensive, elaborate gifts for everyone
- Decorating every inch of your home
- Making complex holiday meals from scratch
By releasing one “should,” you’re giving yourself permission to make the holiday season simpler and more enjoyable.
A Calmer, Well-ish Holiday Season
This holiday season, tiny shifts can make a big difference. Setting daily intentions, creating small moments of calm, celebrating small wins, and practicing gratitude can help you find joy in simple ways. Letting go of just one “should” gives you the freedom to create a holiday that feels balanced and meaningful.
If you’re ready for more simple ways to create a joyful, well-ish holiday season, sign up for our free Well-ish Guide to Feeling Better this Holiday Season! It’s the perfect companion to a holiday that feels good to you.
Lost in the Middle: Why Midlife Feels Like a Blur (And How to Find Yourself Again)
Feeling lost in midlife? Discover why midlife can feel overwhelming and how midlife coaching can help you rediscover yourself. Learn actionable tips here.
Are you feeling lost in midlife?
Between managing work, caring for family, and navigating the emotional weight of daily life, midlife can feel overwhelming. You’re busy, but not fulfilled. You’re doing all the things, yet wondering, “Is this it?”
Many women in their 40s and 50s experience this phase of life as a “messy middle.” It’s a time of change, uncertainty, and self-doubt—but also an opportunity for rediscovery and creativity.
What Makes Midlife Feel So Overwhelming?
Midlife often brings unique challenges that can leave women feeling stuck or disconnected. Here’s why:
1. The Sandwich Generation Struggles
Juggling the demands of aging parents and growing children leaves little time or energy for yourself.
2. Emotional Labour Overload
From managing schedules to meeting everyone’s emotional needs, the invisible work of midlife women often goes unnoticed—and it’s exhausting.
3. Shifting Identity
As roles change, many women ask themselves, “Who am I now?” This can lead to feelings of uncertainty and loss.
While these challenges are real, they’re also part of what makes midlife a powerful turning point.
Midlife as a Time for Rediscovery
The messy middle isn’t just a period to endure—it’s a chance to reconnect with yourself. Here’s how you can begin to navigate midlife with clarity and confidence:
1. Ask Small, Meaningful Questions:
Start by exploring what truly matters to you. Reflect on questions like:
What moments bring me joy?
What do I want more (or less) of in my life?
What makes me feel most like myself?
These inquiries can reveal what you value and where to focus your energy.
2. Prioritise Yourself (Even in Small Ways):
It’s easy to put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own, but creating even five minutes a day for yourself can make a difference. Use this time to journal, take a podcast walk, or even turn off your phone.
3. Get Support from a Midlife Coach:
A certified coach can help you identify what’s holding you back, clarify your goals, and take meaningful steps forward. Midlife coaching is about more than solving problems—it’s about rediscovering who you are and what you want from this next chapter.
How to Find Yourself Again in Midlife
Are you ready to explore what’s next? Midlife coaching can help you:
Reduce overwhelm and reconnect with yourself.
Gain clarity on your values and goals.
Create a life that feels meaningful and aligned.
Click here to learn more about midlife coaching and take the first step toward finding yourself again.
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