Feeling disconnected? How to rediscover yourself
Sometimes it can feel like we’re just going through the motions, lost in the endless to-dos of our daily lives. If this continues for a while we can end up feeling disconnected from ourselves. We can become so overwhelmed by the demands of work, family, and external expectations, that we can feel like we’ve lost ourselves entirely.
If this resonates, explore with us how to reconnect with what you’re thinking and feeling, even when everything else is demanding your attention.
The noise around us
Right now, it can feel like we are bombarded with information and advice on how to live our best lives. From social media influencers to self-help gurus, there’s no shortage of voices telling us what we should be doing. While it can be inspiring to access so much knowledge, it can also lead to confusion and self-doubt. We start to outsource our needs and desires to these external sources, losing touch with what we really believe and value.
Imagine trying to write a heartfelt letter while a loud party is going on around you, or giving an important presentation with multiple conversations happening in the background. It’s distracting, frustrating, and ultimately unproductive. This is how many of us navigate our daily lives; trying to stay true to ourselves while being pulled in countless directions by outside influences.
Over the past year, I’ve worked with many women who feel lost and disconnected. Through our conversations, I’ve realized that we all know what we truly need and want, we’ve just pushed it aside or forgotten it amidst the chaos of everyday life.
Tuning into what you really believe
The first step to reconnect with yourself is to create space for silence and introspection. I know that doesn’t sound the most fun but this gives you permission to pause, to listen to your inner voice, and to trust your own insights. This might feel uncomfortable at first, especially if you’re used to constantly seeking external validation. But it’s essential for reconnecting with your thoughts and feelings (and in turn your wants, needs, and desires).
Start by setting aside a few minutes each day for quiet reflection. This could be through meditation, journaling, or simply sitting in silence. Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings without judgment. What are the recurring themes? What sparks joy or brings a sense of peace? What feels out of alignment?
As you practice tuning into yourself, you’ll begin to uncover your core values and desires. These are the anchors that can guide you through life’s ups and downs, helping you stay true to yourself amidst the noise.
Reclaiming selfhood
Reconnecting when you’ve lost your sense of self requires patience and practice. Here are some steps to help you along the way:
Identify Your Core Values:
What matters most to you? Is it family, creativity, adventure, or something else? Make a list of your top values and keep it somewhere visible. Let these values guide your decisions and actions.
Set Boundaries:
Protect your time and energy by setting clear boundaries. This might mean saying no to commitments that don’t align with your values or limiting your exposure to negative influences.
Practice Self-Compassion:
Be gentle with yourself as you navigate everyday life. It’s okay to make mistakes and experience setbacks. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a close friend.
Seek Support:
Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you. Share what’s happening with trusted friends or join a community of like-minded individuals. Sometimes, an outside perspective can provide valuable insights and encouragement.
Embrace Your Unique Path:
Remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to living a fulfilling life. Trust your intuition and embrace your unique path, even if it looks different from what others expect.
By taking these steps, you’ll start to feel more connected to yourself. You’ll begin to live a life that feels more like your own.
Your way to self-connection
Reconnecting with yourself is about tuning out the external noise and tuning into your inner wisdom. By identifying your core values, setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, seeking support, and embracing your unique path, you can find your way back to you.
So, take a deep breath, create some quiet space, and start listening to you. What might you say if you took a moment to listen?
Ready to Reconnect?
If you’re feeling disconnected and unsure of where to start, our Lost Sessions can help you find your way. At If Lost Start Here, we offer supportive guidance to help you rediscover yourself in ways that accessible.
Or not sure of what you need, let’s talk.
