Overwhelmed by all the advice about how to be happy, but still interested in its pursuit? In this series, Arthur Brooks, social scientist and The Atlantic’s Chief Happiness correspondent, reduces all the noise around living happier lives (and some of the judgment) and gets to the core of how to actually do this. Brooks uncovers the research, talks to the experts and offers practical tools for subjects that range from how to be self-aware to the secret of finding meaningful work. Also check out the interactive exercises, which move you from reflecting to living that happier life.

In this episode, Brooks talks with the author (A Radical Awakening), clinical psychologist and mindfulness expert Dr. Shefali on self-objectification and the feelings of incongruence that can come with living life according to who we think we should be rather than who we are.